One of my beautiful client's has created a business that I feel compelled to share.
Maternal Cove is the brain child by Lauren Warren, a local mum and long time client/friend of mine.
She is a doula.
The reason I felt that I simply had to write about this, was that I was scrolling through insta and found a picture of 3 of my brides in the one pic and all 3 of them were pregnant.
So often, this is the next step for many of my brides. In the same time frame, I saw another one of my beautiful brides who had just had a preemie baby - she was originally from London and due to Covid, the people that she would more than likely want supporting her, were not here. Now these are just the inferences I have made - and I felt "what if there was a kind, caring and supportive person that could step into this role and be there to advocate for you in that sort of situation?" Enter Lauren....
If I could describe Lauren in one word, it would be WARM. Just talking to her feels like a hug. She's articulate, but not condescending. Supportive but not patronising. She really is the kind of person you want on your team.
As a doula, she comes with experience. Not only is she a mum to 3 amazing kids, she has also suffered her own heartbreak when she lost her precious little boy at 15 weeks gestation. She is more than qualified to offer her support and guidance and specialises in supporting parents who are welcoming a rainbow baby (a Bub born post miscarriage/loss).
Lauren can come with you to medical appointments, or just be available for a chat. She also is on call to you around the time of the birth and will be at the birth if you choose. But the part of her service that I found fascinating, was that she catches up post birth and has a debrief. I think that part of her service is invaluable - and helps the mum to understand the feelings, emotions and the process of it all. There are inevitably parts of the. birth that the mum will focus on and perhaps parts she has blocked totally out of her memory.
When I think about my own births - 2 out of 3 of mine were horrendous and took me a long time to process (and I had excellent care, a brilliant obstetrician and an incredibly supportive team of my husband and mum in the room - and a bazillion number of extended family waiting in the wings). And so many of the women I speak to, have their own version of this that ranges from amazing to completely and utterly horrifying.
I would have loved someone like Lauren to talk to after my own experience and being able to ask "why did this happen?" or "is it ok that I felt like this?" If I had a dollar for every person that says "healthy mum, healthy Bub" I would be a millionaire - and of course that is the desired outcome - but there needs to be a way to limit the emotional collateral damage on the way through.
Harry was born at 34 weeks and Lexie 35 weeks - and now when I look at them, their births are a distant memory. Jake was the "perfect" labour and I feel that experience is the one I try to focus on the most.
Lauren's website is coming soon: www.maternal cove.com
You can email her at firstname.lastname@example.org and also check out her socials on insta and fb.